I've been thinking about this for a while now, the part that dreaming, denial and delusion play in weight gain and weight tolerance. Do you like the term weight tolerance? I just made it up. It means wearing the weight with the attitude that no one can see it, and it really doesn't matter.
Dreaming - I have been dreaming or fantasizing about losing weight for much of my adult life. When I would walk by a store window full of beautiful clothes, or I would be getting ready to go out and wasn't satisfied with how I looked, I would dream about how in a week, or even the next day I would start a diet and then I would be able to wear those clothes, and feel really pretty. I would dream about how if I started the following Monday, that within a month I would look so much better. I have discovered that dreaming just doesn't cut it.
Denial - When I was much heavier, I could read the scale as easily as I read it now. But there is a big difference between then and now. Even while being weighed at my MD's office (leading to major anxiety), I could always say to myself that the scale was wrong, or that the clothing I was wearing was exceptionally heavy, even though I had chosen the outfit because it was not going to add a lot of weight. In fact, I have been known to question the MD's scale more than once. And, I decided that most people wouldn't notice that I was so heavy, and that health-wise it really didn't matter all that much.
Delusion... Remember my blog about how I looked in the photos taken at the wedding... the appearance of that rather large woman who was wearing my dress? That was a point where I was definitely delusional. I had moved from denial to delusions of slender. I really thought I looked much slimmer. I believed I was much thinner than I obviously was.
What I have been thinking about in all of this is that using the 3 Ds to play mind games is not new or unusual. I think that this is a common way of dealing with the things in life we don't want to face. I am now trying to live in the present without delusion, without denial, and without dreaming about how I wish things were. By taking action to lose the weight, I have been able to let go of the 3 Ds and find it feels so much better.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
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